Price
Monthly Subscriptions starting at $12.25 per month
Profiles
1000's of profiles, many of which are active. Some fake profiles.
Security
Part of Cupid Media's circle of dating sites which have a good reputation, but you have to watch out for romance scammers.
Allows Direct Contact?
Yes
Summary
Vietnam Cupid is the only dedicated international dating site aimed at Western men who want to connect with Vietnamese women.
The site has around 800,000 members, and a lot of active female profiles. The site is also managed by Cupid Media, a company known for supplying honest and relevant niche dating sites.
Though the site is honest and relatively safe to use, it is important that you be on the look out for suspicious profiles or behavior. As always, when dating online watch out for red flags.
The site is a great way to help break the ice with Vietnamese women, who can be notoriously shy during first encounters.
Vietnam Cupid is an online dating site through and through, so if you're looking to physically meet women in the country you will have to take the initiative to travel to the there.
Women in Vietnam are known to be some of the most conservative and elegant women in SE Asia. Vietnamese culture is largely family oriented, and their women are known for displaying loyalty and fidelity in relationships.
If you're a man on a mission for find a serious relationship over seas then Vietnam sounds like the place to be. However dating Vietnamese women is easier said than done.
As a whole the country as a moderate level of English ability, scoring higher proficiency levels than countries like China, and Thailand. Still the language barrier is very real, and you can't expect to just fly over and speak English with locals like you might be able to do in the Philippines.
And while their conservative culture produces feminine and family oriented women, it can also make the dating scene a bit difficult, if you jump in blind.
This is were Vietnam Cupid comes in handy. It's the only international dating site specifically designed for Western men interested in meeting Vietnamese women (and vice versa).
In this post we'll look at the main features of the site, and we'll even go over how to use it successfully meet Vietnamese women in Vietnam.
Features
If you're familiar with online dating at all then the main features of Vietnam Cupid won't surprise you. Once you sign up you can create your profile and add a few photos. You can then search the profiles of other members and look through their photos as well.
With a premium (ie paid) subscription you can send and read messages from other members, which is the main feature of the site.
A walk through of the search engine used on all Cupid Media sites
App
You can also access Vietnam Cupid through their mobile app. It retains all the features of the full site, and is more convenient to use (I think).
Subscription levels
Standard, Gold, and Platinum are the three subscription levels available for VC.
Standard subscription (free)
The standard subscription is free. All that's required is your name and email address. At the standard level you can browse and search profiles, express interest, and communicate with women who have a paid subscription (most will not).
Platinum subscription
A platinum subscription gives you all the perks from the gold level in addition to providing you with some advantages over other members.
This includes things like ranking your profile over other profiles, highlighting your profile, providing more space for you to write in your profile, and (most notably) translation of messages into your native language.
Honesty
Vietnam Cupid comes from a family of over 30 niche dating sites (most of which are international), operated by Cupid Media.
The company has had a fairly good reputation for over 15 years, providing up front and honest dating sites. While they can't possibly screen the intentions of their millions of site users, they do have a system in place to report suspicious profiles and remove scammers.
Most importantly Cupid Media's sites don't control your contact with its other members. You are free take to communication off of the site if you want. This means no PPL scams.
"Negotiating through the website I see that Cupid passes my first and most important test: they allow direct contact with the women on the website. The worst type of dating agency is one that requires communication between you and the women you contact to be funneled through the agency. Most websites that limit your contact with the women that you are talking to do so because their ladies profiles are fake or they want to “lead you on” in order to get more sales from you"
Profiles
There are over 800,000+ profiles on Vietnam Cupid, making it one of the largest Vietnamese dating sites. There's no shortage of active profiles.
As with most Cupid sites, the profiles are authentic without any of the suspicious glitz and glam of PPL sites.
Some US profiles
On an interesting note there are a fair amount of Vietnamese women in the US using the site, though the majority are from Vietnam. If you live near a major US city it wouldn't be a bad idea to search for profiles near where you live.
There are a considerable amount of Vietnamese expat communities in the US.
The site is honest but be smart (how to use it safely)
Keep your eye out for romance scams. These scams can happen on any dating site and Vietnam Cupid is no exception. Once you sign up for a free account on the site you're liable to receive messages from "interested" women who say they like your photo or think you're attractive (even if you haven't posted a photo or any personal details yet).
Romance scammers are a problem on all dating sites, not just international ones
These are fake profiles used by scammers to lure men into romance scams. The majority of profiles on the site aren't fake. Unfortunately though it's the fake ones who will message you first. The site can work well for meeting real women, you just have to use common sense.
If you aren't sure what constitutes a red flag please refer to our post on the 4 commandments and tips for international dating. You can also check out our scam school page.
Best way to use Vietnam Cupid
If you're gung-ho about meeting women in Vietnam, we outlined a process you can use to safely, orderly, and also cheaply connect and meet with Vietnamese women in the real world using Vietnam Cupid.
Note: this example runs on a 12 week timeline. Feel free to modify it according to you needs. Just remember that the point is to contact women for the purpose of arranging dates face to face in the real world. Don't get stuck chatting to ladies for months only to never visit them!
Phase 1: 12-6 Weeks before your trip
Create a basic list of requirements
The first thing you want to do is to create a general list of criteria for the type of woman you want to meet. emphasis on the word general here. We don't mean pick out things like eye color, height, and occupation.
You should make a list of the basic requirements you'll use to sift through the 1,000s of profiles on VC. Things like age range, whether she has kids or not, relationship status (divorced, widowed, etc), religion, and English level should make up your list.
A Friendly Reminder: Only date women you can communicate with
We advise men to only date women they can easily communicate with in person. Unless you know a foreign language this means dating women with a good level of English .
We advise this because it eliminates the need for hiring a translator; which not only saves you money, but makes you much less vulnerable to the "professional dater" type scams.
Now that you have your list, create a free basic profile on Vietnam Cupid. Use your requirements to search for women on the site. Make sure that their is a good number of active women on the site who live in or near the city in the Philippines you plan on traveling to.
Verify your city and dating site
If there are enough women who meet your criteria go ahead and green light your trip and purchase your travel arrangements.
If there aren't enough women in the city you chose, try searching near a different city. With other sites I normally recommend that if you can't find enough women in the area you want to travel to, you should try a different site altogether. But in this case you shouldn't have a problem finding a decent number of members on VC The site has so many active profiles.
Phase 2: 6-4 weeks before your trip
For the next two weeks you want to start putting together the pieces of your personal profile, which you will post to VC once you purchase a premium membership.
This part is a bit more important than most guys think. You site profile is the virtual equivalent of a first impression. Just as there are 1,000's of women on VC, you can bet there are a lot of men using the site too.
How to make a good (virtual) impression
You want to use your profile pics, description, and introductory letter to help you stand out from the pack.
Photos
Typically most guys on online dating sites take a series of selfies on their cell phone, post them on the site, and call it a day. There's nothing wrong with having 1 or 2 natural type photos that aren't all that glamorous, but all your photos shouldn't look like that.
You can do better
To be honest you should probably avoid the whole selfie idea all together. Odds are that you know someone with a half way decent digital camera. Put on a nice shirt and have them take some shots of you.
You don't have to get too fancy with things, just get two portraits, a full body pic, and maybe a candid action shot showing you playing a sport or dressed up for a party (pick something you normally do). Putting in this little bit of extra effort will go a long way toward helping you stand out from the other guys on the site.
Remember:
Ladies on dating sites often put up with a lot of creeps and sleazy guys. Just as you don't want to be bombarded with scammers and bots, a woman doesn't want to bombarded with tasteless or over sexualized messages.
Go the extra mile and to make your profile standout because in the end that's what you would want a woman to do for you.
Profile description tips
Most profiles list desires, hobbies, interests, and something about life style. There's nothing wrong with any of that. One tip here though is to try to get specific when talking about these things.
Many guys will put that they like movies (who doesn't?), you should list some of your favorite movies or genres of film. A lot of guys might say they want a woman with family values. What if you said you value a woman who brings warmth and love to the home? Do you see the pattern here? Be honest, but also be specific.
The introductory letter
Honestly we could write an entire post on how to write an introductory letter (we probably will soon). Because you will be contacting numerous women it's best to write a general introductory letter that you can use as a template.
More or less the letter can follow this pattern. Each item should be about a paragraph long:
- 1Hello I'm....(basic biographical info: age, where you live, height, weight, lifestyle, education, career, religion, etc.)
- 2Paint a picture: Description what you enjoy about your life and lifestyle, and things you do in your city. Give the woman an glimpse into what life would be like with you.
- 3I'm looking for more: Your life is good, but you need/want a ___ woman because____.....(what attributes/character traits are you looking for?)
- 4I'm serious: Talk about how you're a man on a mission and don't want to waste time on online romance. Mention your upcoming trip and its purpose.
- 5Ask her for contact info: This is the part where you transition and ask the woman if she would be willing to contact you and see if there's any chemistry between you.
This is a general outline, but you should get the idea.
Now don't go copy and pasting this template verbatim, and then start spamming every pretty woman you see on the site. Use the template as, well....a template. You should be reading a looking over each profile you message. Incorporate something personal or specific to a woman's profile in your letter to her.
Phase 3: 4 weeks- trip date
This is where you sign up for a premium subscription on Vietnam Cupid, upload your photos and personal info, and start contacting ladies.
Use the general requirements list you made earlier to inform your search. Be honest and realistic, and stay clear of any red flags.
You'll want to send out a lot of introduction letters, as not all women will respond or be interested in contacting you. If you're taking your time and reviewing each profile like you should, this could take a while.
Make sure the women know that you're planning on meeting multiple women in their city, but that you will only pursue the one you have the most chemistry with.
At this point you should know when you'll be in town so give the dates to the ladies who are interested in meeting you and start arranging dates .
Phase 4: the trip
This is where your hard work, planning, and research pay off! enjoy your dates with the ladies, and always deal honestly with them. If you feel there is chemistry between you and a woman tell her, and ask her if she feels the same way.
If you don't feel things clicking then be honest and tell the lady at the end of your date (make sure you thank her too!).
What other people say about Vietnam Cupid
"The easiest way in which you can meet girls from Vietnam is from Vietnamcupid.com. While other dating websites offer you a wide range of options from different countries, this website is more specific, based on the location of the girls. While you may still be able to see some girls from other countries posting their profiles here, you can expect, however, that most are actually from Vietnam.
Therefore, if you are attracted to Vietnamese ladies like I do, this is the best website to find a good match in Vietnam. What makes this website a good option because it can serve as a good platform to get to know a girl from Vietnam better. In general, Vietnamese ladies are very shy and awkward in public.
If you decide to meet them in person, you may not be able to find out everything about them as they may be too timid to give you the details of their lives. But with this website, you can start earning their trust first and work your way up."
"I asked my friend, the one who live in District 3 (wherever the hell that is) in Ho Chi Minh City.
Here’s what he said:
“Honestly, Vietnam Cupid is your only option. Everyone I know has met their girlfriend on this site.”
Somehow I expected this answer.
I mean, Vietnamese women are known for being conservative, traditional and extremely shy in public. You can’t just approach them in brought daylight and expect a positive reaction. Even if she falls in love with you from the moment she sees you, the situation will overwhelm her.
Heck, these cute girls are even shy when you approach them online (a place where they don’t have to be afraid of judgement).
Just imagine how shy they are when you approach them in the real world?
I guess my friend is right.
Online dating is your only option, at least when you want to meet the right girls (not the street hookers who approach you).
And believe me, there are many beautiful girls with traditional values who are waiting for you online…"
Alternatives to Vietnam Cupid
Asian Dating is a sister site of Vietnam Cupid, and is also run buy Cupid media. Asian Dating works the same way as Vietnam Cupid, and maintains the same quality of experience.
The site has a good amount of Vietnamese women with active profiles (though not as many as VC), and you can also search within nearby Asian countries as well.
I personally love the idea of using a site like Vietnam Cupid, and traveling on my own to meet women in a country I've never been to. For me everything from arranging the travel, planning the itinerary, to figuring out how to get around in a new city are all a welcomed adventure. It's like the icing on the cake when dating foreign women.
For others though, the prospect of having to iron out all of the details involved in such a trip might not seem so exciting. If you're looking for a way to meet foreign women that's more secure and convenient, and if you're willing to go to Thailand instead of Vietnam, there may be a better option for you.
Dream Connections is an American based company started by the American/Ukrainian couple Mark and Ana Davis. Dream connections offers tours in Bangkok, Thailand; as well as in Ukraine and Colombia
The company is unique in that they function more like an introduction/matchmaking agency than a romance tour agency (which is good because I don't trust most romance tours).
Each tour has about 15-20 guys and up to (I think) 90 or so local ladies. The company screens both men and women for relational intent and basic background information.
They also feature a unique system where each man has a personal translator/personal assistant for the trip. The dating starts off with a series of short speed dating sessions after which men are free to contact interested ladies and go on dates apart from the group.
Conclusion
When it comes to international dating sites dedicated to Vietnam, VC is the standout choice. It's the largest non-PPL site for meeting women in the country.
There are some fake profiles and wannabe romance scammers on VC, so you'll need to use common sense when communicating with women. As long as you, you should have a safe experience.