Some would answer the question what kind of man does a Filipina fall in love with, with something sarcastic like “the kind who has money”, or “the kind who lives in America”, or maybe even, “the kind who is old and about to die”.
That isn’t what I have in mind for this article. Those scenarios depict three situations a guy could be in, but they don’t reveal anything about the type of man a Filipina falls in love with.
It's important to recognize the difference between a scammer and genuine Filipino lady. A scammer is NOT looking for a certain quality about a man’s behavior, they are looking for a situation to take advantage of for their own gain. A sincere Filipina will be looking for specific qualities in a man.
I am going to talk about the kind of man a Filipina falls in love with, and wants to marry and take good care of, all the days of her life. Is it even possible? I believe it is, and that many men are loving Filipinas who are content and happy to be their wives.
1. The kind who has money
This makes it sound like a Filipina would be quite happy being with a man who beats her and bosses her around. I mean, as long as he has money right?
Two of a Filipino woman's biggest fears are that she will be beaten or controlled as slave. I think this is a big cop out of an excuse for men who don’t have a lot of means. You can only do so much about your earning potential in life, but there are no limits on the type of man you can become.
There are men with a lot of wealth who treat their women like dirt. I doubt the women are overwhelmed with the thought of his assets as he roughs them up. A woman who falls for a man just because he is wealthy is being foolish.
Filipinas have heard the stories of women getting abused by their wealthy husbands. I don’t think they are eager to be the next in line. I don’t think a Filipina marries a man simply because he is rich. I don’t think she falls in love with him either.
While you are dating, you should try to discern if she is looking to marry a type of man, or a man with a type of bank account. A Filipina will likely be looking for a foreigner to help her and her family.
A true relationship is characterized by love, not money
That is something you’ll just need to accept. A good Filipina wife is worth it even if she is sending a lot of money home. A Filipina can fall in love with a man who is generous in helping with money, helping with acts of kindness, generous with positivity.
The kind who lives in America
For one thing, she will be flying a very long way from everything and everyone she has ever known, and that is difficult. Intense homesickness exists for a reason.
Filipinas are resilient and adaptable, but she is making the kind of move I would think most men would not want to do. Yes, she might be going to a “first world country” but when family is so important to you, and you are away from them for perhaps the first time, this is a major challenge.
The winters here will be a shock to her system. She may find the people rude, not as likable, and always in a hurry. She will find out how expensive it is to live here. My wife is always shocked to see how much tax is taken out of her paychecks.
The kind who is about to die
Some women will marry a much older man who she knows isn’t likely to live a lot longer, and sure, it would be for his money, but this is not all Filipinas. Only God knows when someone will die.
I am 57 and there have already been a lot of people I have known from work who are no longer alive. If she is marrying for love, she will want her husband to be around a long time. It is common for Filipinas to believe that they are only meant to marry one man in their lifetime. Those women will want to make a good choice. Certainly not all Filipinas want to marry a man who is “living on borrowed time".
A list of traits that a Filipina will be attracted to
Affectionate, agreeable, ambitious, assertive. Balanced, brave, cautious, cheerful, clean, composed, confident, conscientious, considerate, content, cool-headed, cooperative, cordial, courageous, decisive, delightful, devoted, diligent, dutiful, easy going, energetic, enthusiastic, even-tempered, friendly, funny, generous, gently, helpful, industrious, inspiring, jovial, joyous, kind, level-headed, mature, mild, modest, motivated, orderly, outgoing, passionate, patient, peaceful, persevering, playful, pleasant, polite, positive, practical, prudent, punctual, realistic, reassuring, reliable, respected, respectful, responsible, sensitive, sensible, sentimental, serious, sincere, spirited, stable, steady, strong, sweet, tactful, thoughtful, tolerant, vigilant, warmhearted, willing, vulnerable, zealous.
These are character traits, and they are attractive ones. They describe the man who can find Love Beyond The Sea.