Asian women consistently rank as the most sought after women in the online dating world. Both men who are looking overseas and those who are seeking women domestically search more for women of Asian descent more than any other race.
No one is quite sure why this is the case. It probably has something to do with asian stereotypes of femininity and the alluring mystique the fear east has always held for the Western world.
Countries like the Philippines and Thailand top the list of countries men travel to in order tomeet a women overseas (I could be wrong but I believe the Philippines are the popular destination). However if you're new to global travel or to international dating in general, the prospect of traveling to a distant country with a different culture, and whose language you probably don't understand, can feel like nothing more than a pipe dream.
There is where services like international dating sites and introduction agencies come on the scene. Their goal (assuming they're an honest company), is the solve a very specific problem for the men who are native to Western countries and are looking for love abroad: They want to help these men connect and communicate with foreign women.
Because Asia is the most sought after travel destination for would be international daters, there are more datings site for the continent than there are for any other part of the world (excluding the West of course).
In this review we take a look at one of the biggest and more popular ones: Asian Dating. We'll look at the site's features, as well as its pros and cons; and we'l provide some helpful tips on how to use the site to meet Asian ladies aboard.
Monthly Subscriptions starting at $10.00 per month
1000's of profiles, many of which are active. Some spammy profiles.
Part of Cupid Media's circle of dating sites which have a good reputation, but there some romance scammers so be careful.
Allows Direct Contact?
When it comes to non-PPL dating sites, Asian dating is one of the premier options for connecting with Asian women. There are literally thousands of active users on the site at nearly any given moment.
The site caters to women from all over Asia. Overall the profiles are real, but if you use the site be aware that you will probably be messaged by some fake profiles and wannabe romance scammers.
As long as you keep your head on your shoulders and your eyes in your head you should be able to use the site without any problems.
As far as dating sites go Asian Dating doesn't have any features that stick out as unique (other than the location of its users). As with most dating sites you can create your own profile and look through other ones with a free account.
Once you sign up for a premium subscription you will be allowed to send and receive messages with other members as well as have live text chats.
A walk through of the search engine used on all Cupid Media sites
Asian Dating also has a mobile app for Apple and Android. Site functionality remains the same, only the layout is different (it's optimized for mobile).
There are a total of 3 different subscription levels you can sign up for on Asian Dating: standard, gold, and platinum. With the exception of the standard account (which is free), all accounts require a monthly subscription fee.
Standard subscription (free)
The standard subscription is free. All that's required is your name and email address. At the standard level you can browse and search profiles, express interest, and communicate with women who have a paid subscription (most will not).
A platinum subscription gives you all the perks from the gold level in addition to providing you with some advantages over other members.
This includes things like ranking your profile over other profiles, highlighting your profile, providing more space for you to write in your profile, and (most notably) translation of messages into your native language.
Which level is the best value?
I recommend going with the gold level subscription. In my opinion the platinum features are okay, but they just aren't quite worth the extra money.
Do you really need your profile to stick out in site searches if you're going to be messaging women directly? If you could pay to have your profile's messages appear first in the inboxes then that might be a different story.
The translation feature is less helpful these days with free tools like Google translate. We also typically advise men not to date women they can't easily communicate with without the use of a translator.
This is mostly to help protect against dating scams, but it also saves you some money, and will probably result in a better dating experience too.
For what it's worth Cupid Media (the company behind Asian Dating), has been offering straightforward and honest sites since their founding back in 2000. Though some of their sites do have a problem with spammers and scammers (we'll get to that in a minute), the sites themselves aren't a scam.
The flat monthly subscription fee means no surprise fees or PPL scams. The company also screens it's sites (though I'm not sure how thoroughly) for fake profiles and suspicious activity. There is even a feature that allows you to report and flag bad profiles.
"Negotiating through the website I see that Cupid passes my first and most important test: they allow direct contact with the women on the website. The worst type of dating agency is one that requires communication between you and the women you contact to be funneled through the agency. Most websites that limit your contact with the women that you are talking to do so because their ladies profiles are fake or they want to “lead you on” in order to get more sales from you"
Where are the profiles from?
Staying true to its name Asian Dating has active profiles from women throughout Asia. All the popular countries are featured on the site such as the Philippines, Thailand, Japan, and China. Also the slightly less popular countries like Vietnam and South Korea.
There are also countries featured on the site that don't make much of an appearance on other international dating sites, most notably Cambodia, India, Malaysia, and Taiwan.
Cupid Media has dedicated sites for many countries in Asia (list below). If you've already decided on visiting one of those countries I suggest using the site dedicated to it. If you're unsure or you're interested in visiting a less popular country then using Asian Dating is probably a good idea.
Country Specific Asian Dating Sites by Cupid Meda
Fake profiles and scams
If you make a free account on Asian Dating without a picture or any personal info, you're still liable to receive messages of interested from the day you sign up from fake or ill intending profiles.
This problems isn't unique to Asian Dating, a lot of online dating sites struggle with it (not just the international ones). That being said, overall the percentage of unsavory profiles on the site is relatively low.
Asian Dating is a huge site with hundreds of thousands of users (maybe more). The vast majority of profiles appear natural and legitimate. As always use your brain when using the site. If you take warning from any red flags that show up while using the site and follow the 4 commandments of dating, you should be able to date just fine on the site.
Best way to use Asian Dating
If you're serious about using Asian Dating to meet and date women abroad, here's a quick how-to guide to help get started.
Note: this example runs on a 12 week timeline. Feel free to modify it according to you needs. Just remember that the point is to contact women for the purpose of arranging dates face to face in the real world. Don't get stuck chatting to ladies for months only to never visit them!
Phase 1: 12-6 Weeks before your trip
Create a basic list of requirements
The first thing you want to do is to create a general list of criteria for the type of woman you want to meet. emphasis on the word general here. We don't mean pick out things like eye color, height, and occupation.
You should make a list of the basic requirements you'll use to sift through the 1,000s of profiles on AD. Things like age range, whether she has kids or not, relationship status (divorced, widowed, etc), religion, and English level should make up your list.
A Friendly Reminder: Only date women you can communicate with
We advise men to only date women they can easily communicate with in person. Unless you know a foreign language this means dating women with a good level of English.
We advise this because it eliminates the need for hiring a translator; which not only saves you money, but makes you much less vulnerable to the "professional dater" type scams.
Now that you have your list, create a free basic profile on Asian Dating. Use your requirements to search for women on the site. Make sure that their is a good number of active women on the site who live in or near the city you plan on traveling to.
Verify your city and dating site
If there are enough women who meet your criteria go ahead and green light your trip and purchase your travel arrangements.
If there aren't enough women in the city you chose, try searching near a different city. With other sites I normally recommend that if you can't find enough women in the area you want to travel to, you should try a different site altogether. But in this case you shouldn't have a problem finding a decent number of members on AD. The site has so many active profiles.
Phase 2: 6-4 weeks before your trip
For the next two weeks you want to start putting together the pieces of your personal profile, which you will post to AD once you purchase a premium membership.
This part is a bit more important than most guys think. You site profile is the virtual equivalent of a first impression. Just as there are 1,000's of women on AD, you can bet there are a lot of men using the site too.
How to make a good (virtual) impression
You want to use your profile pics, description, and introductory letter to help you stand out from the pack.
Typically most guys on AD take a series of selfies on their cell phone, post them on the site, and call it a day. There's nothing wrong with having 1 or 2 natural type photos that aren't all that glamorous, but all your photos shouldn't look like that.
To be honest you should probably avoid the whole selfie idea all together. Odds are that you know someone with a half way decent digital camera. Put on a nice shirt and have them take some shots of you.
You don't have to get too fancy with things, just get two portraits, a full body pic, and maybe a candid action shot showing you playing a sport or dressed up for a party (pick something you normally do). Putting in this little bit of extra effort will go a long way toward helping you stand out from the other guys on the site.
Profile description tips
Most profiles list desires, hobbies, interests, and something about life style. There's nothing wrong with any of that. One tip here though is to try to get specific when talking about these things.
Many guys will put that they like movies (who doesn't?), you should list some of your favorite movies or genres of film. A lot of guys might say they want a woman with family values. What if you said you value a woman who brings warmth and love to the home? Do you see the pattern here? Be honest, but also be specific.
The introductory letter
Honestly we could write an entire post on how to write an introductory letter (we probably will soon). Because you will be contacting numerous women it's best to write a general introductory letter that you can use as a template.
More or less the letter can follow this pattern. Each item should be about a paragraph long:
- 1Hello I'm....(basic biographical info: age, where you live, height, weight, lifestyle, education, career, religion, etc.)
- 2Paint a picture: Description what you enjoy about your life and lifestyle, and things you do in your city. Give the woman an glimpse into what life would be like with you.
- 3I'm looking for more: Your life is good, but you need/want a ___ woman because____.....(what attributes/character traits are you looking for?)
- 4I'm serious: Talk about how you're a man on a mission and don't want to waste time on online romance. Mention your upcoming trip and its purpose.
- 5Ask her for contact info: This is the part where you transition and ask the woman if she would be willing to contact you and see if there's any chemistry between you.
This is a general outline, but you should get the idea.
Now don't go copy and pasting this template verbatim, and then start spamming every pretty woman you see on the site. Use the template as, well....a template. You should be reading a looking over each profile you message. Incorporate something personal or specific to a woman's profile in your letter to her.
Phase 3: 4 weeks- trip date
This is where you sign up for a premium subscription on Asian Dating, upload your photos and personal info, and start contacting ladies.
Use the general requirements list you made earlier to inform your search. Be honest and realistic, and stay clear of any red flags.
You'll want to send out a lot of introduction letters, as not all women will respond or be interested in contacting you. If you're taking your time and reviewing each profile like you should, this could take a while.
Make sure the women know that you're planning on meeting multiple women in their city, but that you will only pursue the one you have the most chemistry with.
At this point you should know when you'll be in town so give the dates to the ladies who are interested in meeting you and start arranging dates .
Phase 4: the trip
This is where your hard work, planning, and research pay off! enjoy your dates with the ladies, and always deal honestly with them. If you feel there is chemistry between you and a woman tell her, and ask her if she feels the same way.
If you don't feel things clicking then be honest and tell the lady at the end of your date (make sure you thank her too!).
What other people say about Asian Dating
"Based on personal experience, I met a girl named Stephanie from the Philippines (while I was traveling there). What I really like about girls in the Philippines is that most of them can at least converse in English. This is a huge plus, considering that I do not know other languages aside from English. There are occasional barriers, but as a whole it was good.
Unfortunately she wasn't on the same island I was and I really wanted to meet Stephanie, so I arranged a boat ride over. I had thought about going before, but knowing she was there was the deciding factor.
When I met her, I can say that she was the ACTUAL woman I met on asiandating.com, unlike other horrible stories of fake profiles and similar lies. We had a good time and both when she took me out to eat some Sig-Sig and at her place after. All I can say was she was truly a giver."
"My biggest complaint with the site was receiving many spammy messages quickly after signing up. However, there are plenty of real men and women genuinely looking to connect on this site, and the message filters are helpful in filtering out the scam-artists. If you are of Asian descent, or you’re simply looking to meet an Asian single, then I highly recommend AsianDating."
Alternatives to AsianDating.com
Asian Love Match
Asian Love Match is similar to Asian Dating, in that its user base spans across the continent. It has a large amount of active profiles. It's price and features are comparable to AD, the main difference is that overall Asian Love Match has a stronger system in place against fake profiles and scammers.
I love the idea of using a dating site like Asian Dating, picking a city and going off on my own to meet foreign ladies; but the amount of work, logistics, and fear of the unknown can be a turn off for some guys. If you're interested in meeting relationally minded women in Thailand then there may be a better option for you.
The company I'm about to talk about here solves those problems. They take care of your entire trip (minus airfare), and provide everything you need to meet serious Thai women. All you have to do is show up.
Dream Connections is an American based company started by the American/Ukrainian couple Mark and Ana Davis. The company is unique in that they function more like an introduction/matchmaking agency than a romance tour agency (which is good because I don't trust most romance tours).
Each tour has about 15-20 guys and up to 100 or so local ladies. The company screens both men and women for relational intent and basic background information.
They also feature a unique system where each man has a personal translator/personal assistant for the trip. The dating starts off with a series of short speed dating sessions after which men are free to contact interested ladies and go on dates apart from the group.
Asian Dating is one of the premier options for Western men looking to meet honest women in Asia. Though the site itself is honest, you do have to watch out for potential romance scammers.
The site's user base is large and active, and is spread over a wide range of Asian countries. If you plan to travel in Asia, using this site is a good bet.